Languishing? You’re not alone. Here’s what you can do to take charge of your everyday emotions

“The creative activity of transforming a space can actually be its own act of self-care,” explains Michele Koury LMHC, a Columbia University-trained psychotherapist and founder of Know Yourself Counseling in New York City. “Once the bathroom is a spa, it can be really good to have a contained, regular space we associate with winding down.”

Michele Koury, LMHC, a counselor with Know Yourself Counseling, echoes that same sentiment.

“Write one more letter asserting what you're owed and maybe even outlining a proposed payment plan — but then cut the losses and take this as a lesson in boundaries, especially since your job provides you with financial security…”

Despite being a quiet and calming time for ourselves, the act of meditating can feel intimidating. However, sitting still with yourself certainly isn't the only way to center your mind. "Reading has proven to be my simplest and most successful mode of self-care," says Michele Koury LMHC; Ed.M; M.A., and founder of Know Yourself Counseling in Manhattan.

“Through my life I’ve taken care to nurture my dual strengths: empathizing with others, and observing meaningful patterns in any context.”

Plus, the movie she calls "the best breakup movie of all time."

"I find it meditative, relaxing, and so rewarding when I finish a piece."

A therapist shares five tips for getting through this loaded holiday.